Joy is being out of the strangle hold of the chronic stress response.


Joy is feeling pain free and beyond any time constraints.


Joy is effervescent but yet peaceful at the same time.


Joy is a very connected feeling and yet a feeling of having no boundaries at all.


Joy is a very very very expanded sensation and feeling at one with the world around.


Joy is feeling like you really know and accept every inch of yourself.


Joy is a very powerful feeling, like there is nothing wrong in this sphere of the world.


Joy feels like a higher vibration than love, awe, appreciation, caring, happy, content, calm, centered, peace, purpose, or self-acceptance. It’s like all of those wrapped into one with more lightness and effervescence on top.

How do I know about joy?

Because I haven’t felt joy in a long time. I felt it in my childhood after my mom made me a new pair of cotton pajamas with little purple flowers on them and I ran out onto the grass in the morning summer sun and danced around my grandfather. But in these midlife years stress and chronic pain have kept it hidden in a straightjacket.

You know something when you haven’t had it and then you do have it.

I feel joy now. It’s wonderful, I’m spinning cartwheels and staying grounded. I’m floating and yet totally connected. I feel like a child totally safe and totally loved dancing in my new pajamas.

How did joy get released from the prison it was held in?

I drove my hippotherapy equipment from Michigan to Indiana and gave it away to an Occupational Therapist who recently graduated from college putting more closure on that part of my life.

And I had an amazing pain relief treatment a couple of days ago that incorporated the use of natural quartz crystals. It was subtle, it was gentle, and it was the use of nature – rocks actually.

Quartz rocks have been used in electronics for years. Our body is electrical (think heart beat, brain waves, the zing of hitting your funny bone). Why not try natural quartz crystals with the electrical energy system of the human body? I was open to it and I’m sure glad – actually joyful!

I’m a 0 out of 10 on the pain scale and have been a few days. For someone who has had chronic pain daily for the past 10 years or more, that’s amazing.

What changed to reduce the pain? It feels like my body is able to relax, like it’s been released from a twisted straightjacket. And with the new freedom of movement and relaxation the pain is gone!

I have identified myself as a person who proudly carries on despite the pain. But maybe it’s time for a new identity? Maybe I’ll have to redefine myself apart from chronic pain. I would never have believed that chronic pain could be something in my past. It’s too soon to say this was a miracle cure, but I’m hoping and I’ll keep you informed!



Anxiety in Its Many Forms

hot tub

This is (was) my hot tub. It’s about 20 years old we think, we’re not sure because 10 years ago we “rescued” it from a backyard where it sat empty, being used as a dog chew toy. My husband cleaned it up, bought a new pump and cord, ordered a cover and presented it to me on my birthday when I turned 40. I loved this gift the most out of all gifts and used it daily for pain relief.

A hot tub is not suppose to grow ice-sickles under the deck. And it’s not suppose to need refilling every week. The problem wasn’t just the leaking, my beloved hot tub was old and needed to be replaced. Anxiety issue #1 – when looking at prices for hot tubs, my husband asked if I really needed a replacement.  I could feel a shortness of breath as I contemplated the forever loss of my morning muscle relief routine – so YES, I did NEED a replacement.

Anxiety issue #2 – do we buy new or used. I chose new because I knew how much value I received from the hot tub and I knew I would use it … I didn’t want a used one needing something replaced and being “out of commission.”

Anxiety issue #3 – the new hot tub, which is small, has a 110 hookup, is minus any fancy light or sound systems and is insulated for Michigan winters will take 4-6 weeks for manufacturing and delivery … but the old hot tub is leaking and during thaws is saturating the ground under the deck. That’s a problem that could cause my husband to drain the hot tub, which means I’ll be without my pain relief for a month – I feel short of breath again and my jaw muscles tense. We pull out a couple of children’s plastic play pools that we got for the dogs to lay in during the summer and placed them under the drips. It worked and we had to empty them about every 3 days. Whew.

Anxiety issue #4 – the day the new hot tub arrives, we drain and move the old one, preparing the space for the new hot tub. It’s an icy day and the guys are 2 hours late, I’m fretting and call the salesman, everything is fine, they are running late and the delivery pulls in. My new hot tub has a dark brown exterior and a marbled creams and browns interior, lots of jets, a cover lift, OMG – it’s beautiful! I love it immediately. My husband comes over to attach the wiring and discovers everything is labeled 240 and not 110/120 – I’m completely asthmatic now – coughing to breathe … we call the salesman, and yes, we have the correct tub, it’s a brand new 2015 model for the Master Spa company and so everything, even the instruction book, hasn’t been updated. So with a few simple directions, the wiring is done, the hot tub is filled and finally turned on!

Anxiety issue #5 – the water is cold to start out with, it’s from the garden hose, so the hot tub has to heat it up another 40 degrees to get it up to temperature – which I already know takes about 30 to 36 hours with a 110 set up. But the hot tub pump has a loudness that is an annoying vibration type of loud … my husband instantly complains and suggests that we send it back – oh no, I turn to my essential oils, slather on the Balance for stress and the Breathe to open my chest. My husband is right, it is loud, such a vibration that we actually have to turn on a fan in the bedroom to drown out the sound so we can sleep.

I send out an email to the company asking if this is normal. It’s been a day and a half and no one has emailed back, but we have found out that the sound isn’t as loud when the hot tub is up to temperature. I think it will work out and I’ve been in it twice already today – feeling the anxiety leave my body as the water flows over the aches – when the pain (both physical and psychological) is eased, then my breathing becomes normal again.

It’s been a while since I’ve felt that level of panic type anxiousness – the last time was in early 2013 – after I’d been in the hospital for a 10 out of 10 pain level and finally experienced pain relief with the peripheral nerve anti-seizure med neurontin … I had a lot of side effects with that med, but it didn’t matter at the time because neurontin did manage the pain when nothing else had. Once, when I was getting near the time to refill my prescription, I didn’t want to run out of pills and went to the pharmacy only to be told that my insurance wouldn’t cover the refill until tomorrow … WHAT … I was beside myself because the next two days were scheduled and I would have no time to stop at the pharmacy, which meant I would run out of pills. I felt a breathless panic attack then and there and told the clerk (quite forcefully) I would pay out-of-pocket and I wanted my prescription today (in other words, I will not have an insurance company tell me when I could or couldn’t get my prescription filled when it was only one day from running out).

And I think that’s the connection – the hot tub helps me manage my pain level on my own time and terms. I can’t imagine being without it now. I’m off all prescription meds and have found a nice balance of how to live with the now mild chronic pain. Yes, flares can still happen, because my flares are stress related and there’s only so much you can do to manage the stress that life throws at you. But thankfully, I have a new hot tub and it’s finally working and I’m again feeling on top of this stress management thing!  Yes, breathing in with ease … anxiety bubbling away…