Unlocking Love

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Once upon a time a lovely young woman was nearing 30. She had a career and a house but was sad. She did not have someone to call her own. To love and to be loved. She was lonely. She had tried relationships in the past but it never worked out; she attracted Mr. Wrong. She was afraid marriage would never come her way and yet it was what her heart desired. Her fairy Godmother saw her hopelessness and waved her wand to unlock the lovely young woman’s heart. Once her heart was unlocked, she radiated her love to others and within days she met the love of her life, they married and lived happily ever after.

In another part of town, a lovely older woman was living with many bottled up emotions. On the exterior she had successfully raised her family and kept up her house with her devoted husband, but inside something was wrong. She had difficulty making eye contact with others and didn’t feel she was worthy. She’d had a rough childhood and had risen above it but still the shadow of self-doubt loomed. Her guardian angel saw this deep sadness and wrapped his wings around her and like a key, unlocked her heart. Once her heart was unlocked, the love of others and the love she had for others began to shine through. Feeling loved, she was able to look others squarely in the eye with compassion and caring. Her children began acting differently around her and came to visit more. They wrote cards of how much they respected and admired their mother, something she had never known or received before, and she too lived happily ever after.

These are true amalgamated stories, wrapped up in a fairy tale setting, of people who have benefited from Emotion Code TM work. I can be your fairy godmother or guardian angel. I will be offering an Emotion Code group clearing session on February 22 with the intention of helping the unlocking of hearts so you too can live happily ever after!

Interested? Read more HERE!

 

LOVE

Valentines Day just passed and thoughts of love are in the air.

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And I was contemplating how we are to love our neighbor as ourself. We know that means that we love ourself enough to keep ourselves clothed, fed, and sheltered. But I think loving yourself means even more than that. And not in the egoic way (where you feel you are better than others, deserve more than others, etc.).

Do you really know what loving yourself is? It’s living without regrets.

What does that mean? It means you do something today that is uncomfortable because it make tomorrow easier for you.

Surprised? Who would have thought sacrifice and suffering is true love. Christian’s top the list on that teaching, but so do those in the health and fitness areas.

Exercise today and enjoy the benefits down the road, avoid this food and lose weight … none of those benefits are immediate but over time they do add up.

Do something today that is uncomfortable because it will make tomorrow easier for you.

What do I do to love myself? Mostly little things. Pack my car in the evening for the early trip the next day even though I just want to put my legs up and surf Facebook.

What do I do to love others? I refill the toilet paper when it’s low and I make coffee for my hubby in the morning even if I’ve given it up for Lent.

Do something today that is uncomfortable because it will make tomorrow easier for you.

What little ways can you bring more love into the world? What sacrifices can you make today that will benefit the you of the future? I’m right there with you! Rooting for us both, rooting for love.

A Christmas Drama

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Once upon a time … there was a juggler and the juggler was busily balancing all the juggling balls – one ball was work, one ball was self, one ball was family … but the balls were getting heavy and out-of-balance and he dropped a ball …

During Christmas time, it’s easy for that to happen, to feel overwhelmed with all the extra’s of the season. My mom has her hands full working with my father’s memory challenges and handling all the insurance and financial issues associated with aging … so to take some pressure off everyone, I organized a cookie exchange. There were 6 of us and we’d all bake our one favorite recipe and give a dozen of our cookies away to the other’s … we would then bring home 5 dozen different tasty Christmas treats! Win, win for everyone!

The newest member of the family, my nephew’s fiancé was working tons of Christmas hours and wasn’t sure she could do the cookie exchange. That’s fine I told her, I understood her situation but since we were all baking that weekend and needed to know how many cookies to make, I asked her to say “yes” or “no.” And she said “yes”.

Two days later, the day of the cookie exchange, my nephew’s fiancé was not there, she was spending the day shopping with a friend and hadn’t left cookies for us. We all left our cookies for her and gave her extra needed time to bake in the next several days and told her we would pick up the cookies in a week. She replied back that she was making us all a delicious treat.

Next week came and no cookies. It was only a few days before Christmas now and this became more of a situation of ‘keeping your word’ and not dropping the ball with family than it was about cookies. I knew she was working a lot of hours so when I contacted her about not finding cookies on my last visit and being disappointed but understanding she was busy, I told her that she could simply buy some cookies or candy this year and bring it over on Christmas.

Well, I guess she never intended on participating in the cookie exchange, because instead of taking action and following through (she works at a store where there are cookies, it would only take 5 minutes or less to buy some) a DRAMA ensued. What is a drama? It is a situation where one person is cast as the victim, another is cast as the rescuer, and a third is cast as the villain. Guess who was the victim and who was the villain? Yep, I was cast as the bad person inflicting evil on a poor overworked soul (my nephew’s fiancé) and my brother became the rescuer, fighting the villain.

Whoa, time for a re-frame … this is totally turned around and I won’t play in Christmas drama’s … nothing I have done is remotely hurtful – it’s totally about holding the space respectfully and offering alternatives so another can keep their word to family and juggle that ball with balance. I can totally separate out a person’s behavior from the person – i.e. I can be disappointed in my nephew’s fiancés behavior but still love her as a person and new family member.

So is there a happy ending? Holding the space for a person is exhausting and I could have been resentful about it and felt it was unfair … but it’s Christmas, where love entered the world in the form of a little child who had to spend His first nights in a cold manger – that’s not exactly “fair” but it taught us that suffering in love is redemptive. So once it’s Christmas and family is together, everything is forgiven and there’s no mention of cookies and no entering drama.

Obviously, there’s a lesson to be learned from everything that happens and I hope my nephew’s fiancé will be strong enough in the future to say “no” to things she won’t have time for. I’m guessing that by saying “yes” and then not following through that she has some lingering internal angst (shame, regret, resentfulness) … all of which I’m sure led to a Christmas Drama sadly brought on by herself, and which could have been avoided by honestly assessing the situation.

But back to happy endings … was there one?  Yes! There was a happy ending – love prevailed and Christmas was celebrated with family present – the greatest gift of all!  May God Bless you and yours this holiday season!