Beat The Heat

It’s the middle of the summer and it’s hot. On Saturdays I’m volunteering for a therapeutic riding program, walking for 2 hours in a metal indoor arena, it’s shaded but boy do we sweat. And on top of that, I’m in menopause and periodically experience hot flashes.

What is there to do? How about creating a Beat The Heat spray! If you’re a do-it-yourselfer, here’s the recipe I’m using! If you want it fast and live near me, I’ll make a bottle up for you for $15.

What you need to BEAT THE HEAT and have a refreshing cooling water based spray …

2 ounce spray bottle – one that is safe to use for essential oils

1/2 ounce Everclear

15 drops Peppermint Essential Oil (Mentha x piperita) – (May cause skin or mucus membrane irritation if used in greater than 5% dilution – we are using about a 1% dilution in this blend). Peppermint is cooling, clears energy, is uplifting to the mind, helps reduce fatigue, awakens, refreshes, offers pain relief, good for respiratory support, and is astringent to get rid of that oily sweaty feel.

10 drops of Bergamot Mint Essential Oil (Mentha citrate) – This has stress reducing monoterpenols and esters and offers balance. Bergamot mint is cooling, supports peace of mind, is immune supportive, and has anti-spasmodic properties.

The next three essential oils help with menopause symptoms because they are calming and supportive for hormone balance.

5 drops Orange (Citrus sinensis) – No known safety issues. Orange essential oil has analgesic, anti-inflammatory, immunostimulant, and anti-bacterial properties. Citrus oils are bright, cooling and uplifting.

5 drops Clary Sage (Salvia sclera) – No known safety issues. Clary Sage essential oil acts as a CNS sedative and has anti-depressant and anti-stress properties. It is cooling and is also good for respiratory issues.

5 drops Ylang Ylang (Cananga odorata) – Non-toxic essential oil but may be skin irritating if used at greater than 0.8% dilution, we are using it at a safe 0.4% dilution). Ylang Ylang acts as a CNS Sedative and is analgesic, anti-inflammatory and has a anti-depressant chemistry. It is relaxing, calming, exotic and sensual as well as cooling.

Fill the remaining space in the 2oz bottle with distilled water or aloe vera gel. Shake well before use. Spray this cooling mist 6-12 inches away from face and neck areas and feel instant relief.

Use ONLY quality therapeutic grade essential oils. Store in a cool dark space when not in use. (Do not leave this blend in a car during the summer, the intense buildup of heat will destroy the chemistry of the essential oils.) Because this is a water based blend, make it up fresh every 6 weeks. I add Vitamin E and Soluble in my water blends to increase shelf life but it’s best to use these type of blends frequently and use them up! Perfect to BEAT THE HEAT for the rest of the summer!

BEAT THE HEAT is a refreshing spray blend of specific essential oils perfect for cooling hot flashes, easing mood swings, and balancing hormones. Whether dealing with summer heat, menopause or a particularly disruptive monthly cycle, this blend can help bring welcome relief both physically and emotionally.

Let me know how it works for you!



Not the play acting type of drama but the real life drama of the emotionally charged rages happening today centered mostly around politics.

I first learned about “drama’s” when I was taking psychology courses and studying personality disorders, in particular Borderline Personality.

A person in drama creates their own screenplay of the situations around them and casts certain people in one of three starring roles: The HERO, The VICTIM, and the PERSECUTOR.

These drama’s are invested with a lot of emotions and creative imagining and are painted in black and white, not taking into account the countless gray areas. In reality EVERYONE at some point in time and in some area of their life has been a hero, a victim and a persecutor. But those in drama assign one role to a person without considering the whole person or the full picture in regards to the past, present, or possible future contexts.

Instead of identifying a particular person’s behavior, a drama condemns the person to the role they are assigned by the dramatizer, the person (rather than a certain behavior) is judged as good or bad. Unfortunately that doesn’t leave room for change in the mind of the one creating the drama; if one behavior is improved, the creator of the drama will look for and even magnify another behavior to prove their character casting was correct.

Drama’s are emotionally driven rather than being logically thought out. Emotionally driven behavior can lead to passive-aggressive and aggressive behaviors. Drama’s can not be taken lightly, they are often hurtful.

How does a person keep out of drama?

First, calm emotions. Calm the fight-flight response. The frontal lobes of the brain do not get the blood flow they need under stress and a person can not think as clearly as they normally would. Diaphragmatic breathing helps and so does mindfulness where you ground yourself in something concrete around you … notice the sunrise, appreciate a growing tree, enjoy the feeling of the water while taking a shower … get into the sensations of your body and let emotional stress drain away.

Second, after you’ve calmed your emotions, step back from whatever is a trigger, and observe it from a distance … like you’re up in a hot air balloon looking thousands of feet below you. Take in the whole scene, look at all the information. Don’t avoid something that’s uncomfortable, just continue to observe it from your higher vantage point. A person in drama will often have a magnifying glass on a certain issue, shutting out surrounding information and making a problem appear much bigger than it actually is.

Third, if you’re a praying person, pray for the situation. Have compassion on yourself and on other people, everyone is doing the best they can at the moment, they would do differently if they could, and we’ll never know the entire complexity of any person, probably not even ourselves (but we should really try to get to know our own self first). Don’t take anything that has been dragged into drama personally, it’s all about the other person, set limits so you aren’t abused and then practice compassion.

Fourth, if someone around you is in drama: if they are calling you names, then simply say it like you see it … tell them that’s the behavior of a bully; or if they are playing the role of the victim, be gentle but let them know they are more than a victim.

BTW, this doesn’t apply to a person who has been abused in some form, a person who has been a victim, that’s not the type of drama I’m talking about here. There are real hero’s and there are people who do bad things. I hold out hope for a person who has had a victim experience, that they wouldn’t become stuck in a ‘poor me’ attitude for years of their life … they are a person who can also be a survivor and/or an activist creating change and/or a compassionate supporter of others who have experienced similar situations.

It’s not healthy for anyone to be cast into just one role. Nor is it healthy for those who type cast others. Let’s work on getting out of drama and really looking at the complex facets and dimensions of the problems around us. Breathe and practice mindfulness. Together we can solve problems. We need each other. We need the full picture and all sides to issues. We don’t need the hurtful emotionally charged rages of drama. Consider and strengthen the areas you have in common with people who don’t share your viewpoint.

Drama is a way of creating separation and division. Most people are united in wanting things like the ethical treatment of animals, clean air and healthy relationships but they see different aspects of the problems in those areas and thus have very different ideas for solutions. Identify shared concerns and then ask others what they propose as solutions. It’s a great way to get out of drama and to learn more about other people’s viewpoints.  And sometimes it may be more appropriate in certain circumstances to avoid emotionally filled topics and thus avoid even the possibility of someone assigning drama roles. Why spoil the fun of a family picnic, instead create happy memories that help build compassion and connection.

Is there any place you’re seeing someone assigning those roles of HERO, VICTIM, or PERPETRATOR? If so, you’re seeing drama. Watch out so you don’t get caught up in someone else’s act.

What you missed …

Have you ever experienced an energy clearing?

Last Thursday I offered a free session clearing emotional baggage around weight. 99% of problems can be traced back to emotions.

Emotions have energy in the body. How do I know that? Einstein taught me. Energy is E=MC2. The M (matter, mass) of emotions is the neuropeptide unique to each emotion. The C (speed of light constant) is a wavelength and frequency. Put those two together and you have energy.

Neuropeptides are like little keys that fit into the unique individual keyholes found on the cells that make up your body. Muscle cells, intestinal cells, heart cells, liver cells. There are millions of receptor sites on each cell.

When the little keys fit in the the keyholes on the cells they create a tiny electromagnetic charge. Emotions are meant to provide some type of information that you are meant to act on … mostly to keep you away from danger … and then the emotion has done it’s job.

But, if you are highly stressed, are ill, or are medicated, then sometimes the emotional information doesn’t get through and the neuropeptide of that emotional key gets stuck in the cell receptor’s keyhole. This is called a trapped emotion.

Trapped emotions have electromagnetic energy that can cause disruptions to the cell it’s attached to and the surrounding cells. Trapped emotions can be a source of pain and dysfunction in muscles, organs, or other tissues. And trapped emotions can be a source of weight problems.

The first set of trapped emotions we released were around bravely facing the number on the scale. To get rid of denial or avoidance. The trapped emotions that came up and were released included:

  • Nervousness
  • Overwhelm
  • And an inherited emotion from our father of Love Unreceived

The second set of trapped emotions that were released had to do with our earliest experiences around food and nurturing as an infant. The trapped emotions that came up and were released included:

  • Lust for food
  • Betrayal
  • Anxiety

The third set of trapped emotions that were released were around the theme of using food as a means of getting comfort, love, and support. The trapped emotions that came up and were released included:

  • Lost
  • Forlorn
  • Depression
  • Abandonment

The next set of trapped emotions we explored were around using food to cope with hurt feelings. The trapped emotions that came up and were released included:

  • Taken for granted
  • Disgust
  • Blaming
  • Anger
  • Helplessness
  • Love Unreceived

And the last set of trapped emotions we released were around using weight as a protective insulation from others. The trapped emotions that came up and were released included:

  • Lust
  • Depression
  • Overwhelm
  • And an inherited emotion from our mother of Shock

Trapped emotions around weight loss can delve into hormones, false beliefs such as not deserving to be thin, family genetics of obesity, exercise, dieting, junk food, specific cravings, stress, willpower and more. We were only able to touch the surface of some common trapped emotions in the group energy clearing.

If you want to learn more about the Emotion Code energy clearing process (or to sign up for a personal energy clearing session around weight) check out the Q & A HERE.

Most of the people I work with that have weight issues have tried a lot of things to get to their ideal weight. Having trapped emotions around weight issues is like driving with your foot on the brake and the gas. You try hard to get somewhere but you’re being blocked and it’s not for lack of effort. Releasing trapped emotions gets that foot off the brake and the result is that you don’t have to push on the gas very hard to get somewhere.

Releasing trapped emotions makes all your other efforts easier. But you still do need to take other measures; energy work is not done in isolation from practical work. The practical tips I’ve found that help include:

  1. Drink water first, sometimes you’re simply hungry for hydration
  2. CHEW CHEW CHEW – your stomach doesn’t have teeth and digestion starts in the mouth
  3. The first 2 bites of a certain food give your tastebuds the flavor they are craving, try smaller two bite portions and really attend to and savor the flavor, be mindful of what you are eating
  4. Eat slowly, give your body a chance to register fullness (and that assumes you are tuning into the sensation of what full feels like to you)
  5. Eat until you are 80% full and then stop
  6. If you really need that stuffed feeling, then go for something savory like a whole bag of riced cauliflower heated and then mixed with 2 chunks of laughing cow cheese wedges, a dash of lemon juice and flavored with garlic and sea salt and cracked pepper (a super sized stomach filling dish for under 150 calories) OR if you need sweet, then cut up a huge bowl of watermelon and dig in (need more ideas like this, look up ‘Hungry Girl’ recipes on the web)
  7. Try to get 25 grams of fiber per day
  8. Fast for 12 – 15 hours each day, give your digestive system a break (I try to stop eating around 7pm and then have breakfast around 8 or 9)

The last Thursday in August I will be holding another Energy Emotion Code Clearing group call. The topic is coping with change … kids go back to school and that’s change, there are changes in routine, but some people are dealing with changes in relationships, or work, or changes in finances, or the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a beloved pet. In August we’ll release negative trapped emotions around change to help build resilience and flexibility. All leading to a happier, healthier, and less stressed you! Save your space and join in HERE!

Weight. What do I want?

I want to feel comfortable riding my horse and not worry about hurting his back.

I want to look in the mirror and smile at my lean muscle.

I want to put on a size 8 and have it fit loose.

I want a size large to be large instead of having to get a 2x-large.

I want a normal body mass index.

I want to be able to cross my legs easily.

I want to wear a tank top and not worry about my arms looking fat.

I want to look and feel sexy for my hubby.

I want to lose weight to help my blood pressure come down.

I want to get to my ideal weight without feeling like it’s torture.

I want to feel healthy and strong.

If you’re carrying excess weight, you probably identify with some of these. What is your weight story? What do you want?

I have stress. Stress creates weight gain. I recognize my cravings and I do have emotional binges at times. Eating feels good, it’s an emotional pick up, but emotional eating creates weight gain. Subconsciously, being a highly sensitive person, I have put on weight as a sort of protective barrier to the busy-ness of the world.

This Thursday I’m offering a group call-in energy healing focusing on removing subconscious emotional blocks to weight loss. I hope to benefit as much as those who listen in so I’m offering this session for FREE to all who want to attend. Click Here for more info and I hope to “see” you in a few days!



I enjoy being in nature, particularly with my dog.

Ten years ago I was running two miles (and more) a day.  I was lean and I felt strong.

In the fall of 2012 I stopped running and went back to walking. Instead of feeling good after running, I felt sore and achy; my body felt twisted and out of alignment.

It’s a good thing I didn’t push through, my body was compromised and I was using a lot of compensatory movements. What does that mean? Experiment and put on a splint that immobilizes your wrist and notice how you type on the computer, get dressed, and drive your car … all those strange positions you use to work around your wrist splint are compensatory movements … you’re compensating around a stiff spot.

Six years ago I had a lot of different stiff spots in my body … my body was splinting itself in order to allow me to continue getting into the positions my work in hippotherapy required. In the spring of 2013, my body simply broke down into a chronic pain syndrome.

It wasn’t running that I needed to stop, it was an issue in my job that was the cause and I was either blind to it or ignored it (I’m not sure I’ve really decided which it was). But I’m glad I stopped running before I ended up with a lifelong injury.

Fast forward to 2018. I’ve spent five years healing … I changed my job, I started using essential oils, I live a detoxing lifestyle, and I get bodywork almost weekly. I’m in my 50’s and I can’t afford not to invest in my future health … the time’s ‘running’ out to get things turned around so I can age gracefully.

Guess what! It’s starting to pay off. Five years is not overnight … it doesn’t fit in the medical model of prescribe and surgically remove … and the money to do it came out of my own pocket, but it’s working! I’ve started running again! For the past two months, in addition to walking the two miles a day, I’ve added running for a half mile.

My dog loves it. My body feels strong when I do it. Well, to be honest, the first week I ran it felt like my legs were heavy cement, but now I feel a rhythm. A slow one, but a good rhythm none the less. And I feel such a sense of satisfaction. I’m running again! It worked. I’m really back to running again!

A Tough Question


You know that one, right? What would Jesus do?

And the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would want done unto you.

Have you ever wondered why Jesus didn’t heal everyone He met? Only some were healed. He was God, why not heal everyone. Was that cruel? What a tough question.

I can’t presume an answer, but I have some ideas. We know from scripture that some people didn’t have enough faith to be healed (Mt. 13:58).

But I think there is more to it. I think part of the answer lies in the mystery of suffering. Jesus shows us that suffering, even suffering unto death, can be a source of redemption if you unite it with God.

Suffering can be a source of mystical redemption applied along with Christ’s sufferings for yourself and others (Col 1:24).

Suffering can be a way of showing you that you’re doing something wrong and that you need to change course; a heart attack may just be the wake up call to finally move from a stressful job or change your long standing eating habits.

Suffering may be what’s needed to make your heart more open to empathy and understanding the pain of others. There are so many stories of a family member impacted for example by a drunk driver and then creating a support group for others.

And your suffering might be what others need to see in order to realize the blessings they have in their own life. Thank you God that I have warm running water for my shower this morning, thank you God that I have a safe house and comfortable bed, thank you God that I have food and a refrigerator … and so on.

And someone’s suffering may be the opportunity for another person to experience the gift of practicing self-giving and generosity rather than being self-absorbed. Have you ever watched a person in a wheelchair struggle to carry groceries and then you see someone offer to help that person. Isn’t that a good feeling?

God wants everything to ultimately turn out for good and you know, the highest good is Heaven. If suffering here on earth helps us on our journey to heaven, then it can be good, just like being healed can be good. A tough question can have a complex spectrum of answers (and I’m sure I haven’t even covered the tip of the iceberg) but one thing I didn’t do was judge God as cruel for not healing everyone.

If you’re the one suffering, that’s not easy, I get it, I’ve been there and I have felt depleted, dejected, depressed, forgotten and even angry. Sometimes it’s helpful to talk to someone else, but if you’re at all like me, you prefer to keep to yourself. But, even I talk in prayer to God and ‘offer it up’ … offering up your sufferings may sound trite to hear someone else tell you to do that, but there’s a sense of accomplishment when I choose to do it myself.

Have you ever wondered why Jesus didn’t heal everyone? What thoughts did you come up with? What do you think now?

The Fat Suit

Fat Suit

My weight has been down and it’s been up. Seems like a trend since childhood, first grade thin, second grade heavier. Now it seems to run in 10 year cycles. The heaviest year of my life was 1999 … the fear and hype of Y2K and end of the world stuff … my body thought it needed to store up fat just in case there would be a scarcity of food. I remember traveling to England to visit my brother and his family, the kids were in grade school. The flight was embarrassingly uncomfortable as my body spilled over onto the seat beside me, I sat twisted sideways as much as possible to contain my space. The afternoon I arrived, I went to the academy where my nieces and nephew were and the youngest, a first grader, ran to me in pure joy and lovingly introduced me to her new friends as her ‘fat Aunt Becky’ … there was no malice but I still cringe as I remember it to this day.

Fat can actually serve as a protective suit for many reasons …

  1. Emotional … fear was the case for my Y2K weight, fear of scarcity. Some people may use weight as a means of keeping people at a distance, as emotional protection against possible heart break. Other people may eat to fill an emotional need. Some have hidden shame and guilt from weight loss failures and others have emotions resulting from feeling judged by others. There are so many variations for this area.
  2. Sensory … a highly sensitive personality (like mine) experiences certain touch as pain and weight provides insulation from that and at the same time food is very calming to the overstimulated sensory system.
  3. Toxicity … the body stores toxins in fat tissue to isolate it from other tissues.
  4. Yeast … overgrowth, especially after an anti-biotic series is not uncommon and yeast steals the nutrients from food and leaves us with empty calories and cravings for more food.
  5. Allergies … create inflammation and gut inflammation prevents the proper processing of nutrients.
  6. Addictions … usually with flour and sugar, where sugar can be as addictive in the brain as cocaine and thus the dopamine craving cycle is created, zapping will power.

My weight is back up higher than I’m comfortable with, I believe stress, overcoming chronic pain and menopause issues … all those various hormones play havoc with metabolism. I feel like I’m wearing a fat suit and I don’t like it.

Yesterday a friend texted me with a plea for help. She was away for the day and her neighbor had found her horse on the ground not moving. I went over and the horse was cast in the stall (trapped and unable to get itself up). The neighbor was quite stressed and when she saw me she said, “Wow, your weight changed, I remember you 5 years ago and you were skinny as a rail.” What do you say to that? I said, “get a rope, get a bed sheet” … I was in action mode to save this horse and my weight was irrelevant. In about 15 minutes the horse was back on it’s feet and running and eating. I then turned to the neighbor and said, “I don’t remember seeing you before” and she replied it was in passing. I wasn’t mad, I wasn’t shamed, I know when people are under stress, they can say things they normally wouldn’t say, I’ve done that before. We shared our relief and excitement about helping the horse and parted ways.

I’m ready to tackle this weight issue, shedding my fat suit. And that is why I’m offering this month’s Emotion Code clearing on weight at no cost to you … I hope to benefit from the emotional releases as much as you do. Emotions are only one piece of the puzzle but how else are you going to address that piece? The Emotion Code work is so simple and so easy. Many of the other reasons for storing fat, you can work on independently by yourself. Considering joining me later this month to address the emotional piece, it’s via phone, and you can listen in wearing your PJ’s and holding a warm herbal tea. Are you ready to shed your fat suit? I am!