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Are you a woman in business for yourself?

Massage therapy? Horse instructor? Therapist? Coach? Marketing? Health?

I am a solopreneur too.

It suits my personality. I like setting my own hours, being my own boss, doing what I think is best for my clients rather than following some preordained ‘one size fits all’ protocol.

But it’s tough. All the responsibility falls on your shoulders. All the decisions. No paid vacation. No paid sick days. Your business is YOU! And if you’re not there to run it, then it doesn’t run for very long. You are the gas in the tank of your business. And if your tank is running low, your business might not be thriving as it should be.

After all these years, I can say that stress is the biggest issue that will make or break me and my business. And for years I’ve studied various methods of stress management.



Positive Affirmations.

Goal Setting.

Time Management.



All of those, along with the constant acquisition of new knowledge, have been very helpful, but you know what? It never really reached the core of the stress.

You see, some people get PTSD from a simple injury, where the physical side heals quickly but the mind side is scarred and others can go through a devastating hurricane and come out the other side with only minor issues and move on as though nothing happened.

I’m one of the sensitive ones. I’m one of the people that gets PTSD from a simple injury. And I know that’s different than other people. And I’ve judged myself for it. The level of stress in my system makes everything different. More intense. And more recovery time is required, along with the constant practice of stress management bandaids.

It almost felt as though I have been using stress management as a type of ongoing coping, similar to what other people do with pain pills. Neither getting to the root of the problem. And I’m a person that likes to get to the root of the problem. I kept searching for that magic elixir.

And I believe I’ve found it. I’ve spent $15,000 this year on coaching. The focus is on business coaching but since I am my business, a lot of that coaching is focused on me. I went through a program that combines the emotional freedom technique with the foundational chakra developmental levels. For example, the first chakra energetic imprint develops in the early stage around birth, bringing in the psychodynamics of the family you were born into and all the relationships and situations surrounding that.

A traumatic birth can result in a fight-flight safety response that is turned on high. I found that unsafe feeling running underneath every current situation from a nervous system level by using the visualization processes in the chakra work AND have been able to defuse that subconscious response using the emotional freedom technique. The results are that I just feel more grounded, safer, not triggered by little issues anymore. I don’t need the stress management techniques as much as I used to.

I’ve literally found a way to get to the root of the problem! And because it has been so powerful for me, I became certified in the process and am now offering it to other solopreneurs. It’s not therapy, it’s a deeply healing coaching process, and in just one month you can get to the root of your stress areas too. I call what I do Transformational Business Coaching, because to transform your business, you must step up your inner game and start with yourself.

I admit, it takes courage, it takes a desire to change, and it takes a willingness to be honest and vulnerable. But it’s so worth it. And because I’m just starting out with this new technique, the first 20 people who sign up get an introductory special of One Month of Personal Empowerment coaching using the chakras.

I promise, it will change your life for the better, and I’m offering it to you at a fraction of the price I’ve paid. If you look inside, ask yourself if you feel this is something you’ve been needing? What would it mean to your business if you stepped into your personal power, were willing to become more visible, and make decisions boldly? Inner healing can even unblock financial self-sabotage and free up a lot of energy that you can reinvest in your business. Think about it. I’d love to meet you and get to know you as your coach!

Wonder what others have experienced?

Here’s what Jude Fay said, “I have had the privilege of being coached by Becky Cook [using tapping in relation to the Fourth Chakra.] Becky is a gifted healer, guiding me through the process in a safe and loving manner, allowing me to access and heal deep wounding within myself. She used her empathy and intuition to bring greater depth and clarity to the issues, offering suggestions for integrating lost and buried parts of me. I emerged feeling lighter, brighter and more at peace than before. I am very happy to recommend Becky and her Chakra work.”

And here’s another testimonial:

“Becky has an exceptional understanding of how things fit together and a lovely and graceful way of holding space for others. While I was being coached by her I was also learning as she framed up and bridges a gap in my understanding at a deep and intimate level that was just for me. I am very grateful to have had the opportunity to have the support and deep care she has for helping people to heal. I’ve been truly blessed by her kind heart and insights and for this I am deeply grateful. Thank you so much Becky, you have truly been a Divine gift in my life!

In Gratitude,
Kim Damratowski

Remember the first 20 people who sign up get an introductory special of One Month of Personal Empowerment coaching using the chakras. I hope you’re one of them!


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Blog posts are supposed to be uplifting, informative … but this one is going to be brutally honest. The only way to slay a demon is to bring it into the light, right?

I’m struggling.

Not with pain. Not with depression. Not with anxiety. Not even with stress.

No, I’m struggling with excess. And that’s a shameful topic.

I’ve been over-rewarding myself. I’ve been buying more clothes than I need. I’ve been over-enjoying food. The results are I’m carrying more weight than is healthy for me and I’m not putting away the amount of money I want to save for retirement.

I see what’s happening and I have trouble stopping it. Eating and having new clothes makes me happy, at least for a while.

I’m working on looking inside to find the deeper “whys” … am I sad over my parents rapid decline as they age. Yes. Am I glad I’m helping them out and sacrificing time to take care of them. Yes. Is that why I need a reward? Is that why I need an emotional boost?

Maybe. I’m just not sure. I don’t have answers. At least not yet. I don’t have anything uplifting or informative to share as to how to overcome this struggle. I’m just being honest that I am struggling and I haven’t worked it out.

Please don’t judge me. But I guess that’s the risk when you choose to be vulnerable and transparent.

If you’re struggling with something, I just want to say “I get it.” And although I’m not a hugger in the traditional touchy feely sense, I am deeply in tune with you and openly, willingly, and gladly am sending you a virtual hug as well as prayers for the strength you need, whatever that might be for.

We’re human, we struggle. I’m not alone in this. You’re not alone either. Maybe a little light will help. I’ve opened the door to let some in, and that takes courage. And it seems like courage and a little TLC will perhaps make the struggle a little bit easier to overcome.


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I had a questionable mammogram last fall. I had to go back the following week for a 3D mammogram and ultrasound. I was scared. I did what I was told. No cancer was found in the follow-up testing, so I was told to come in for another mammogram in the spring.

I had some time to digest what was happening. You just can’t digest it when you’re put in fear survival mode. I didn’t like the idea of getting more radiation from another mammogram. One in a year is ok but 3 or 4 in a year can increase the risk of breast cancer in some women.

But what choice did I have? I decided to explore that question. And I learned about thermography. Mammograms use radiation to look into the breast tissue but radiation does have risks. Cancer causing risks. When cancer is present in the body it creates an increased blood supply to the cancerous area and thus creates more heat. Thermography simply takes a picture of the heat coming off your body. No radiation. Just a picture.

Cancer will show up as a heat bloom. The FDA has approved thermography as an adjunct tool to mammography. So I decided to have my spring and summer follow-ups in thermography rather than be exposed to more radiation by traditional mammograms. And I like natural non-invasive non-traditional methods anyway. I was curious.

I was led to a cool room with the thermography technician (a woman thankfully). And I had to unclothe the areas being scanned so my skin could cool off and the underlying body tissue heat could come through. The scan was simply done by taking a picture with an infrared camera. I sat in a swivel chair and faced different directions. Then it was done.

A couple of weeks later I received the scan pictures and results. There were no heat blooms from the breasts. Everything was normal. I had a follow-up thermography scan a couple of weeks ago. This time I opted for the full body scan that included the breast exam. I thought, “why not, may as well see if I have any areas of inflammation, or other problems.”

My thyroid was checked, the carotid arteries were checked, arms and legs and torso muscles and fascia was checked, TMJ was checked and my head was checked. I was surprised to see a heat signature over the left side of my face where I had a tooth removed a year ago … there’s still inflammation and perhaps infection in that area and you can bet I’m taking that picture to my dentist.

There was a heat signature in the areas where I have low level chronic pain (neck and shoulders) showing fascial inflammation. There were some inflamed areas in my hands and wrists (that was a surprise since those areas don’t hurt) and some inflammation in the lumbrosacral area.

I saw that my thyroid and carotid areas were fine and that my breast tissue was normal. There were a lot of turquoise areas on my body (blue and green are the ‘normal’ good colors without inflammation, whereas red and orange and yellow are inflamed areas).

It was fun to get the results, to get a literal and figurative picture of how my body is doing. A full body thermography scan is definitely something I will continue to do as a regular wellness assessment annually. And yes, it is a few hundred dollars out-of-pocket, but I’m worth it. My health is worth it. ‘Aging well’ is worth it!

Smart Time

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I could have titled this ‘Time Management’ but that just seems so cliche. Smart Time is well, smart. And it’s not just about the use of time but about the use of your energy within time. There are a couple of components of smart time … one component is about ‘time bleeds’ and the other is about ‘time containment.’

Time Bleeds

Time bleeds are where you have a scheduled activity from say 1pm to 2pm. It’s one hour of your time, right? But it’s not if you think about, mull over it, study what you’re going to do, angst over what’s going to happen during that time … you’ve put a lot more than one hour into that one hour. Time has bled into other areas of your life leaving you with less energy and attention to enjoy those moments because you were spinning in your head about what’s going to happen from 1pm to 2pm. When time bleeds like that, one hour can turn into two hours or four hours or twenty four hours or sometimes even more.

Time Containment

Time containment happens when you relax into your day, trust your intuition, feel confident that you can handle whatever the day will bring, and tune into and enjoy the unscheduled parts of your day.

I’m getting better and better at containing time. But before that could happen I first had to invest time in self-awareness and wellness healing. I used the emotional freedom technique, essential oils, and I invested in personal coaching. This inner work has been not only extremely valuable, but essential during this venture.

Here’s a personal example of work productivity … I usually only schedule two people a day for wellness therapeutic sessions and would be exhausted after that, needing the rest of the day to recharge. Yesterday I had four people scheduled … that’s double what my energy could usually handle and each time my heart got anxious questioning whether this was a good idea, I used tapping and tuned mindfully into what was happening at that moment. I allowed past learning to flow into those moments I was with clients and guide me with each session thus controlling the ‘time bleeds’ by trusting I would do the right thing at the right time and using ‘time containment’ to my advantage … the advantage I call ‘smart time.’

It worked. I wasn’t exhausted. I enjoyed the day. I felt productive. Intuition flowed during each person’s session allowing them to get amazing results. And I want more of that. I really like this ‘smart time’ concept. In fact, it just might be life changing for me and my business!