I don’t know why, it’s such a busy time of year, but for some reason I find my mind wandering. Coaching questions are one of the best ways I’ve used to turn daydreaming into productive self-reflection.
Say your feeling overwhelmed or going through a bad time, ask yourself “If someone you loved was going through what you are, what would you feel towards them? What would you want for them?
Or if you find your inner critic is laying on guilt and shame, consider that this inner critic is most probably based on a younger version of you when you were afraid or sad … talk back to this inner critic as though it were a hurting child and you are the adult in charge. How does that change things up?
If you are experiencing pain of some type, ask yourself if that pain is in proportion to the circumstance that is currently going on in your life? If the true answer is “no” then the pain may be an accumulation of stress and pain from other life events (many events cause post traumatic stress reactions, especially if they were overwhelming at the time) and it might be helpful to use EFT tapping during your current emotion. Another trick to use is to climb into an imaginary hot air balloon and allow it to rise above the landscape, look down at the miniature view below and see if it’s easier to view what’s really going on in the here and now and reconsider how tragic (or not) it is.
Practice mindfulness … being totally present in the moment … a coffee savoring moment, a beautiful colorful sunrise moment, a sweet breeze gently blowing moment. During mindfulness there are no labels, no judging, no comparing, no evaluating, no analyzing … it’s just pure presence.
It’s coming down the wire for Christmas … breathe, slow down a moment, everything will be all right; self-awareness, self-empowerment, self-compassion, self-forgiveness, self-kindness, self-encouragement … those are kind gifts you can give to yourself this season.
I know, I can hear it now … “it isn’t even Christmas yet and you’re writing a blog about success in the New Year?” and “what about all your encouragement about being in the moment, isn’t thinking this far ahead the opposite of mindfulness?”
And my response would be that like most things in life, it’s not EITHER mindfulness OR planning ahead, it’s BOTH/AND … both mindfulness and planning ahead. You need both for a balanced successful life.
Do you ever procrastinate?
Is your attention wandering in current moments?
Are you good at setting goals but not so good at following all the way through?
How would you rate your happiness?
Is there room for more happiness?
Can you improve finances, relationships, your health?
Willpower is just one area for success in your new year … there are also things called “won’t power” and “want power” that can be more energizing for meeting long range goals.
I’d like to invite you to plan ahead for success in your New Year and join me in my bi-monthly stress management group for women … the December class is focused on addressing any blocks to success you might be experiencing. Stress management starts with knowledge and helping to build a positive mindset and that’s what this group is all about … removing old emotional baggage to move forward into a happy new year.
We’ll learn a little, practice 2 or 3 stress management techniques you can do on your own, and then I’ll use the Emotion Code to clear sabotaging emotions that are getting in the way of you’re meeting the goals you set for yourself. The class is December 27, 2018 starting at 7:30 eastern time. It is a telephone seminar meeting and will be recorded in case you can’t make it live on the call. Sign up and get the call-in info HERE!
I used to start my day planning out everything that had to be done and the amount of time it would take. The clock ruled each day. Not exactly welcoming to wake up to and not exactly stress free.
So I decided to change up the morning routine and these are my morning hacks to start out each day with less stress …
I schedule in two hours every morning for me. Yep, it’s blocked off on my schedule and I get a message on my phone saying “me time.”
“Me time” is filled with nurturing for my body, mind, and spirit. While the coffee brews, I start with vitamins and a green drink (I like Mighty Maca from Dr. Anna Cabeca). It’s not just any coffee, it’s my own special blend of 1 T. organic roasted chickory, 2 T. organic decaf, and 2 T. organic breakfast coffee in a 12 cup coffee maker. I cradle the steaming coffee and walk to the front door (which faces the east) and step outside in my bare feet and greet the morning and then sit in my favorite chair and read the bible. Next I sit in a hot tub of water with various essential oil blends and close my eyes and pray … prayers for family and friends, our country and for you. After drying off I get my infrared light box out (similar to an infrared sauna) and sit bathing in the healing light, stretching various muscles while playing sudoko or another brain game. Finally it’s time to get dressed and take the dogs out for a walk in the woods with another cup of coffee.
Now that is a routine I can’t wait to wake up to, so relaxing, so nurturing. The day begins by being filled with what is really important.
What about you? Do you enjoy waking up each day? What morning hacks are in your routine? What can you add to set up your day for success and make life a little less stressful?