Public Speaking


You’ve heard how public speaking is the number one fear? Even more so than the fear of death? And there’s the humor that a person would rather die than speak in front of others. I know that fear. I have had the “paralyzed” vocal cords and squeaky voice, the inability to eat 24-hours before the talk … plus difficulty thinking on my feet, feeling like I could pass out, and the shaking, cold hands and sweaty armpits scenario.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

I’m an introvert and quite comfortable in cozy 1:1 sessions with people. That’s what I’ve been doing the past 20+ years. But now I have a message that I hope will reach more people than can be done in 1:1 appointments. So I’m beginning to create workshops for groups.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

This weekend was one of those workshops. The message I have to share is one that brings integrity and partnership, pain and stress relief for horse people and their horses. The focus this weekend was on saddle fit for the everyday horse owner. It was a small group, a half dozen people, but it meant standing in front of them and teaching.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

I know how fear works … it shunts blood away from the thinking part of the brain and into the muscles so that I can run or fight an enemy … even when there is no enemy. I know I have to pre-plan and prepare, write things down in order, give myself extra time, and breathe.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

The day was beautiful, the host barn was fantastic, and the attendees were eager learners. It was a great day and I felt such a sense of accomplishment. But afterward, the nerves came out … I had trouble thinking clearly, I felt my body tremble, and I just needed to move … it was like the thawing out from a stress freeze response.

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

And when I realized that, I didn’t judge it, I looked at the energy release with curiosity. I acknowledged it and allowed my body to shiver. And I put the energy to good use by repacking my car to go home. I did it! By doing my little public speaking event this weekend, I helped bring people into a deeper integrity and partnership with their horse. And because of my gifts of having a scientific brain and being able to analyze tasks, I was able to simplify the saddle fit process for them. It was very satisfying to feel the fear and do it anyway!


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